Wednesday, April 20, 2011

Emotional abuse is Heart and Soul Mutilation

"Emotional abuse is underneath all other types of abuse - the most damaging aspect of physical, sexual, mental, etc. abuse is the trauma to our hearts and souls from being betrayed by the people that we love and trust."

"Our parents were emotionally abused in childhood because their parents were emotionally abused in childhood. Our parents were our role models who taught us how to relate to ourselves and our own emotions."

"The most destructive emotional abuse is the emotional abuse we learned to inflict upon ourselves. We formed our core relationship with self in early childhood and have been judging and shaming ourselves ever since. The most destructive thing about the emotional abuse we suffered because our parents were wounded, was that we incorporated the messages we got from their behavior into our relationship with self. We emotionally abuse ourselves on a daily basis."


    • 1

      Recognize that what's happening is abuse. Don't be in denial. The signs of emotional abuse include: verbal insults, name-calling (ex:bitch, stupid, psycho),controlling behavior, critisizing you constantly, putting you down or making jokes at your expense,diregarding your opinion,isolating you from your family,yelling, threatening to leave you,withholding affection as punishment,ignoring you when you're talking and not listening,controlling all the money and making all major dicisions without you.

    • 2

      You may be confused and he makes you think that it's all your fault. Realize you cannot control somebody else's behavior, so it is not your fault. Realize, you cannot change that person and that love is not supposed to hurt.

    • 3

      Emotional abuse lowers your self esteem and puts the abuser in control. He is always right and you're wrong. It's his way or the highway. Your emotional needs are neglected and maybe you feel lonely or depressed.

    • 4

      Have somebody to talk to and let them know what's going on. Maybe you have to end the toxic relationship. Get support from your family and friends, go talk to a counselor and get some advice.

    • 5

      If you're depressed, talk to your doctor about prescribing antidepressants. They usually take 4-8 weeks to work so the sooner you start treatment, the better.

    • 6

      Leave the abuser and move on with your life. Become stronger person and learn to avoid this type of abusive men in the future. Learn to recognize the early red flags before you get too invloved.

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