Monday, January 30, 2012
Visibly furious, she called the air hostess.
"What's the problem, ma?" the hostess asked her
"Can't you see?" the lady said - "I was given a seat next to a black man. I can't seat here next to him. You have to change my seat"
- "Please, calm down, ma" - said the hostess
"Unfortunately, all the seats are occupied, but I'm still going to check if we have any."
The hostess left and returned some minutes later.
"Madam, as I told you, there isn't any empty seat in this class- economy class.
But I spoke to the captain and he confirmed that there isn't any empty seats in the economy class. We only have seats in the first class."
And before the woman said anything, the hostess continued
"Look, it is unusual for our company to allow a passenger from the economy class change to the first class.
However, given the circumstances, the commandant thinks that it would be a scandal to make a passenger travel sat next to an unpleasant person."
And turning to the black man, the hostess said:
"Which means, Sir, if you would be so nice to pack your handbag, we have reserved you a seat in the first class..."
And all the passengers nearby, who were shocked to see the scene started applauding, some standing on their feet."
Saturday, January 28, 2012
A person that loses a spouse is called a widow. A child who loses a parent is called an orphan. But there is no word to describe a parent that loses a child, because the loss is like no other. Will you put this as your status for just one hour? I'm pretty sure I know the ones that will. Think of someone you know or love who has lost a son or daughter and take a few minutes to remember and honor their beautiful angel.
There are days when it will seem like your whole world is falling apart and you will prefer to hide underneath a blanket rather than face the destruction that is taking place around you. These will be the days when the feeling of loneliness finally wins its battle against you and you will surrender yourself to tears and anger of what seems like an hopeless situation. And you’ll want to break down ...without really knowing what you’re breaking down about, other than fact of finally feeling the pain of all the scars you obtained throughout life’s challenges. Without really knowing where to begin to cure the emotional turmoil caused by the weight of this world, you fall to your knees with to intent to get back up again. It will be during these days were you will feel broken.
But it’s important to remember that even though something breaks, it’s isn’t impossible to fix again.
When you feel alone like no one cares, read this because it's absolutely true: Every night, someone thinks about you before they go to sleep. At least 15 people in this world love you. The only reason someone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you. There are at least 2 people in this world that would die for you. You mean the world to someone. Someone that you don't even know exists loves you. When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it. When you think the world has turned its back on you, take a look. Always remember the compliments you've received. Forget the rude remarks. So, if you are a loving person re post this on your status.
Family is family: You argue, you fight, you stop talking at times, but the truth is the love is always there. Love your family with all your heart because you will never know when they will be gone & you will never get to apologize or say goodbye. Always remember what family stands for F(orever) A(lways) M(ine), I L(ove) Y(ou). Repost if you love your family. I love all my family more than they will ever know!!!
For those who may need a little extra help right now...Prayer is a wonderful thing! If you are my friend click the "like" button & then re-post. If I don't see your name, I'll understand. May I ask my "Facebook Family" wherever you may be to kindly copy, paste and share this status for one hour to give a prayer of support to all those who have family problems, struggles and worries and just need to know that someone cares. Do it for all of us, for no one is immune. I hope to see this on the walls of all my friends just for moral support. I know some will!! I did it for a friend and you can too. Share some faith and love for those in need. Life works in strange ways
I don't care what you earn, where you live, what you drive, whether you're gay or straight, fat or thin, tall or short, beautiful or average, rich or poor, smart or not. If you're my friend, you're my friend. I accept you for who you are, and that's ALL that matters. ...If you feel the same.. steal this from me, your friend, like I just did from my friend
I cried when you passed away. I cry still today. Although I loved you dearly, I couldn't make you stay. A golden heart stopped beating, hard working hands at rest. God broke my heart to prove to me he only takes the best. Put this on your status if there is someone in heaven you miss everyday ♥
Family and friends, you never know when your time is up...but please don't ever forget that I love you and always will no matter what!! A good college friend of mine passed away yesterday morning. Larry was a good guy with a great heart. Please keep his family in your prayers. He will be missed greatly!
May I ask a personal favor, if you know someone who has fought cancer and passed away, or someone who is still fighting, please add this to your status for 1 hour as a mark of respect and remembrance, I hope I'm right about the people who will...
Tuesday, January 24, 2012
There is no such thing as a broken heart-only a heart that is learning to love more and better.
Realizing that your heart isn't damaged is a relief. But when you're desperately trying to let go of a former mate, and you're in emotional agony, this bit of wisdom is cold comfort. Many say they can feel a physical aching in the chest that can last for weeks and even months. An inability to hear love songs on the radio without crying is common. At worst, those struggling through a break-up can't stand to be alone, and avoid places where they might see their ex. Conversely, they might even arrange to run in" to their former flame.
Why do we find it so hard to release when a relationship ends? We get emotionally attached when we fall in love. Emotional attachment is wonderful when the relationship is in full bloom, but a great source of pain when the romance is over. Emotional attachment is responsible for much angst, from jealousy to endless mooning over the lost love, to an inability to move on. Once you finally break the attachment, you have a pleasant neutrality towards the former object of your attachment. You know you're over him when you can see him with another woman and not feel a surge of emotion. It's not that you wish him ill; you simply no longer see why you were so hung up on him to begin with.
There are three steps you can take to expedite the process of release and be free of the pain. If you start practicing them immediately, you may find yourself getting on with your life and experiencing a heady freedom by tomorrow.
Step One: Release Constantly. Be aware of how often you think of your former love after the break-up. For example, something may trigger a memory, or a friend may ask how the two of you are doing. Perhaps you go so far as to maintain contact deliberately with his friends and family in hopes of rekindling the flame. Your ex is a point of reference for you. You wonder what he would think of your new haircut, or what she's up to. You may torment yourself imagining her involvement with someone else.
This pattern of thinking is not helpful to you, and it needs to stop. You should cease anbehavior that keeps you hanging on. There is a magic inrelease. If you are meant to be with her, nothing can keep you apart. For now, you need to disengage. Releasing is not something you can fake. You have to really let go. Letting go may expedite her coming back to you, but you can't do it for this reason. She is not with you now, and that reality must be faced.
How to Release: Cease any behavior that propels you toward her. No more phone calls. Avoid places you may see her if possible. You also need to quit thinking about her and imagining a reunion. Every time you start thinking of her, say (either out loud or silently), "I release you to your highest good. I am free now." As you let go, a strange thing will happen. The Universe will begin to support you. Synchronistic events and spontaneous good will arise to distract you or pull you in another direction. Repeat this release, even if you have to do it dozens of times a day. Because you will be getting positive results, it will become easier and easier to do.
Step Two: Focus on Your Life Vision. It is said that what you look for in another is only yourself. Refocus on your own life when you're plagued with thoughts of your ex-loves. This is healing. As you go through the grieving that is natural upon a break-up, begin to open to a vision of your life as you want it. Include not only the perfect relationship but also your life's mission and most importantly, an image of you at your best-in your power and flourishing, living your life to the fullest. Each time you begin to think of your former love, set these thoughts aside and instead contemplate the vision you've begun to create of yourself. Rather than falling into despair or plotting how to get her back, do something concrete to begin making this vision a reality. Your time is better spent, and this refocusing forces you back into honoring your highest self.
Step Three: Dissolve the Pain. Both of the previous steps will help you handle the pain of emotional release. However, if you have had other wounds in your life, you have built up a large emotional "pain body" that has been reactivated by this break-up. It is time to dissolve this pain body so that you'll never experience such deep loss again. Do this by allowing yourself to feel all of the pain you have stored up inside. Know that tears are healing, a release in and of themselves. Allow yourself to sob in the shower. Embrace the part of you that is inconsolable. Instead of fighting the pain in your heart (and any other physical symptoms), let them be, accepting them fully as part of your healing.
As your pain body is dissolved, begin a practice that will keep you free from storing up more pain in the future. Teach yourself to not take on any new pain. To do this, you must change your perspective. First, know that no one is trying to hurt you. They're doing the best they can, and are simply showing you their limits of their insensitivity. This will help you to quit taking things personally and to forgive.
Secondly, quit feeding your pain. Many of us-especially those we would label "drama queens" (and kings)-need to experience pain in order to feel alive. For others, much of our identity is wrapped up in being a victim. The next time you begin feeling pain, catch yourself. Tell yourself, "I'm thinking of him again." The simple act of noticing how you feed your pain will begin to dissolve it immediately. Next, do whatever is necessary to not let the pain mushroom into a full-blown despair. You may need to distract yourself or remember all the good you have in your life.
As you dissolve your pain body and learn new patterns, your release will go very quickly. You will propel yourself into states of happiness and peace you didn't know existed.
Not only will this break-up not kill you, but it may be the best thing that ever happened to you. The pain of a break-up can push you into a world of magic, of release and of healing that you otherwise might not have entered. And even though you may think your ex is the be-all, end-all, of your life, undoubtedly there is more love, even better love right around the corner.
As we continue to work with our relationship breakthrough coaching clients,
nearly every one we've ever talked to after a break-up or divorce has said that they've been told by someone that the most important factor in the healing process is time.
Unfortunately, the people who say that "time" is the most important factor in healing after a break-up are WRONG.
While we agree that time passing is important in the healing process, it's simply not the only factor or even the most important factor in healing as some people believe it is.
If time passing (maybe 6 months) is the only thing that needs to happen in order for you to heal your pain and broken heart, then all you would need to do is let a certain amount of time pass and poof-- just like magic-- your pain would disappear and your heart would be healed.
Unfortunately, this isn't the way the healing process works. It isn't just the time that's important. It's what you do with that time that determines whether you heal your heart or not.
If time passing was the most important factor in healing after a break-up or divorce, then it would be like having a baby. If all goes well, about 9 months later, out comes a healthy new baby boy or girl.
If it worked the same way in healing after a break-up, a certain amount of time would pass and "presto" your heart would magically be healed and you would then be able to go into a new relationship without any baggage from your past.
If this were the way it really was, it would be great. But the truth is that we all know people who've experienced a relationship break-up or divorce and many months or years later, they are still angry, bitter and holding onto the pain of that past relationship.
If you ever hope to heal your heart and find the courage to truly open yourself up to love again, you're going to have to do some things besides simply letting time pass.
Here's a very simple technique that takes 3 minutes that you can practice anytime you start to feel overwhelmed by your fearful, angry feelings and negative thoughts.
Use this technique when your negative thoughts and feelings are keeping you from functioning in your daily life and you want to shift them to more empowering ones. Negative thoughts and feelings can become a habit but they can also be changed.
- SIT--Sit in a quiet place. (The bathroom will do).
- SETTLE--Close your eyes, take a few deep breaths, bringing your breath into your feet so that you feel grounded and connected to the earth. Feel yourself slowing down and your breathing deepen. (Maybe 30 seconds)
- AWARENESS--Come into awareness of your negative thoughts in this moment. (What exactly are you thinking? Example: "I'm thinking that I'm a real loser when it comes to relationships.")
- ASK--Ask yourself if you know your negative thoughts to be true--absolutely true. Can you find evidence to the contrary? Chances are you can find somewhere in your life where your thoughts cannot be substantiated.
- ALLOW--Bring your attention to your heart or gut area and feel the sensations in your body. (What are you feeling in your body? Is there tightness, a big knot, emptiness, heaviness?) Allow your sensations to be there without judging them and breathe into that area of the body. (If you feel heavy in your heart area, breathe into that heaviness until the sensation softens. If you felt a knot in your gut area, breathe into that knot until it starts to loosen.)
- REPLACE--Replace the limiting, self-defeating "movie" running in your head to one that is more in alignment with what you want in your life--because the reality is that both outcomes are possible. Run this new movie whenever you feel your negative thoughts coming up in the future. (If you know that your negative thoughts aren't true but you see yourself alone forever and in pain, replace that "movie" with one that could happen that you'd like much better. See yourself taking your next step in an empowered way instead of the damaging cycle you find yourself in.)
Practice this as many times a day that you need. Keep a copy of it with your phone in case you are tempted to call your ex. Put a copy in your car to remind you to stop yourself before you drive by his or her new living situation.
i saw the break-up of my 8 year relationship to my previous partner long before it actually happened but when it actually happened,i was devastated.for many years, the two of us had drifted apart,almost leading separate lives.i took a lot of workshops and trainings that didn't interest him and I wasn't interested in hanging around his new friends.we just wanted to live our lives differently.together, we decided that our relations was over but when the actual time came for him to move out,i was so afraid and upset that i almost couldn't breathe.a few days after he left,i remember rushing outside to lay in my hammock because i just couldn't get my breath when i was in the house alone.my thoughts and fears would get the best of me and even though i knew it was the best thing for us to separate,i was truly frozen with fear about how i was going to maintain the house on my own and that i might never find someone else to love and who would love me.i felt so alone,more alone than i had ever felt in my life. even though i had a lot of friends.but they were married and i wasn't or wouldn't be much longer.although they were understanding,they really couldn't understand what this loneliness felt like to me.i felt like everything in my life had been turned upside down and I didn't even know who I was anymore.believe me,i did a lot of things wrong after my now ex left-things that just kept making my pain worse.i spent several months after he moved out worrying about him,whether he was taking care of himself,his new living conditions and how he was emotionally.
You think your relationship might be over. Your pain is unbearable. You feel so lost, alone and confused that sometimes you feel like crawling in a hole and dying. You just want somebody or something to stop the pain so you can feel normal again.
Because of all that's happened, you probably have a million thoughts going through your head right now.
You might be...
~ Wondering when the pain is ever going to stop
~ Trying to figure out what in the world just happened
~ Having trouble sleeping at night because of your "what ifs"
~ Finding it hard to drag yourself out of bed in the morning
~ Trying to let go of your love but you still can't think of anything else
~ Trying to stop crying but the tears just keep coming--and at the worst possible times
~ Feeling "numb" as you go through your day and try to appear "normal"
~ Finding it hard to focus on anything, especially work
~ Wondering if your time with your partner was a total waste of time
~ Just trying to make it through the day without bursting into tears and breaking down--but you do it anyway
~ Thinking you're a total failure at love and you'll never have the kind of relationship you want
~ Not wanting to go home knowing that your partner won't be there and you'll be alone
And what you're really thinking is that this is all some sort of bad dream that you're going to wake up from any moment now and everything will be back to normal.
If ANY of those thoughts and feelings are familiar to you, you're not alone.
Sunday, January 22, 2012
Saturday, January 21, 2012
Tuesday, January 17, 2012
"Lioness: Hidden Treasures"....TOTALLY AWESOME AND SUPERB ALBUM....
MY FAV SONGS ADLH "BETWEEN THE CHEATS","TEAR DRY","LIKE SMOKE","WAKE UP ALONE","A SONG FOR YOU" AND " HALF TIME"...
MISS YOU AMY.....GOD BLESS YOU....MUAH2 FORM UR #1 FAN
Saturday, January 14, 2012
Wednesday, January 11, 2012
Thank you for bringing me happiness
And for you loving me,
I guess it couldn't be for-ever,
This is how it was meant to be.
I fell in love with you,
And worshiped you so,
You touched my heart,
And then I couldn't let go.
You lead me on,
To make me believe,
You wanted my Love,
And you truly needed me.
I guess I'll now call you a player,
And a good one I have to say,
You fooled this woman,
I really thought you were here to stay.
I've been hurt so much,
I hoped you were for real,
My heart you touched,
I prayed for for-ever not until.
If things don't work out for you,
I hope you never forget me,
Because you'll be in my heart,
In the scar you left for me.
Good bye, So long, Take care and God Bless,
I'll love you forever,
What happened doesn't make me love you any less.
I might have not been the best lover
But you know how much I loved you
You know I cared and loved you
You know I was always there by your side
When things did not go well for you
I was always there by your side
I was there to shelter you
I was patient with you
I offered you food and shelter
Most of all I offered you unconditional love
When you found your feet again
You slowly broke my heart for several times
Yet my love for you never changed
Even thought it had a reason to change
I was patient with you once again
For what is worth
I’m sorry for loving you
I’m sorry for being there when you needed me most
I’m sorry for being patient with you
I’m sorry for being the father of your child